As a widow I have learned (or been forced) to adjust to many things. As we all know there is no real adjustment to being without our husbands. Going to weddings, holidays and family functions alone is something I will never adjust to. But most of the time we cope, we do, we take charge. We have to.
For me the things I still struggle with are the small details in life. I can't seem to adjust to:
- Not having someone tall to reach the good glasses
- Getting myself coffee each morning
- Climbing on a ladder to change light bulbs
- Having no one to complain to
- Not laughing with someone who gets you
I guess there is a fine line between adjusting to the changes a widow must make and accepting them. Most of us learn to accept what we have to and try to adjust to whatever we can't accept. We muddle through and find a way to do whatever needs to be done.
Some things I thought I could never adjust to I have. But there are still many aspects of being a widow I find very hard to adjust or accept. I guess I have to keep working on it. After all what else can I do?
What adjustments seem impossible for you?