I got a call this week from a production company that is trying to put together a reality show about the life of a widow. I looked up the company and it is legitimate and well known in the reality TV world. He had seen this blog and thought maybe I knew some women that would be willing to audition.
Anyway the man (sounded pretty young) calling explained that the concept was to follow three widows trying to rebuild their lives without their husbands.
After a few minutes I knew that this reality show was going to be far from realistic. The production company wants to focus on military widows, 25-40 who have lost their husbands in battle. They might, however, consider other widows 40 and under whose husband died in a "tragic manner" like a plane crash.
He ended his speech on requirements by telling me that the show was going to be a documentary following these women in their quest to find new husbands. If he hadn't been so serious I would have laughed out loud. I gently told him that adjusting to being a widow had a lot more challenges than just finding a new husband. And that most of the widows out there were older than 25-40. Perhaps, our husbands didn't die tragically by his definition but their deaths were tragic to us.
He politely responded that "regular widows" were not interesting enough to be on television. "Who wants to watch a bunch of older women?" he said. And I had to agree with him. Heck, we have a hard time getting our families and friends to pay attention to us. Why would strangers? Maybe that's my problem -- I'm just not interesting enough.