After Lane died I received several books on coping with grief and being a widow. Reading these books was struggle for me and to be honest I never finished any of them.
Yesterday I gave all 7 grief books to the library. I skimmed through each one again before making the decision to give it away. I suddenly realized why I had such a hard time with these books. To me, the books simplified being a widow. I'm not saying that the Stages of Grief didn't apply to me. I probably have gone through each stage several times and in no particular order as implied. I am saying is that being a widow is anything but simple and organized. It is the kind of chaos that each individual needs to deal with on her own terms and on her own timeable.
I am often asked: Will it get better? Why are people so insensitive? Is this all there is to life now? I don't have answers to these questions. I don't think grief books do either. They can't. While we all have something in common, the way we have to cope with life as a widow depends on so many factors that no book or blog fits all. I wish there was a step by step plan but I don't think it's possible.
Did grief books help you?