Some people think that widows live in the past. That we wile away the hours staring out of the window saying "poor me."
Well, we don't. Most of us get up every day go to work, go to school, take care of our families and take care of our homes. We see friends, we cook meals, we pay bills and some us even try to have a social life.
Living in the past would be easy compared to living in the present. It is hard to make every decision on your own with no one to discuss things with. For many widows coping with their new financial present is a daunting task. Widows with kids still living at home don't have the time to live in the past.
Do we still wish our husbands were here with us? Of course we do. Did we have more fun the past more than the present? Most definitely. Do we like to talk about wonderful memories? So shoot us.
Most widows don't have the luxury of living in the past. We have to face the many hard realities of being on our own. Those realities are in the present and we live them every day like our married friends do. And if we want to talk about our old life every once in a while give us a break!
Do you live in the past?