Saturday night I had dinner with an elderly friend whose husband died in January. Marie is struggling to decide if she should sell her home and move into a retirement community or stay where she is. Marie seemed very anxious to make this decision.
When she casually asked me for advice I said "What's the rush? Why do you have to decide right away?" My response surprised me because I am not a procrastinator by nature. I have always been quick to make a decision and then follow up with a course of action. Since Lane died I'm in no rush to make decisions that I feel are difficult or impact other people.
It's funny. If we knew that Lane was going to die so young we would have been in a rush to do a lot of things. Rent that villa for a summer in the south of France, save more money, take Fridays off, learn how to scuba dive, take a cooking class were all on our to do list. If I knew what was going to happen so suddenly I would have been in a rush to spend more time together relaxing rather than working. Now, I am in no rush to make changes or as a matter of fact do much of anything.
What are you in a rush to do? And, why?