When your husband dies your whole social life takes a huge turn. No longer do you have a partner in crime or a guaranteed Saturday night date. All of a sudden you have to begin manufacturing a social life. And frankly, I view socializing as a lot of work.
When Lane died other widows told me that I should accept every invitation and push myself out of the house as often as possible. Well, I didn't get that many invitations so I was pretty safe entrenched in my own home. Family members told me to "make new friends" which I interpreted as code for spend time with other women like you, women without husbands. Not being much of a girls' girl I could only handle this type of socializing on a limited basis.
Of course some people told me to "find a man." Many widows have a great time dating. They seem to get fixed up or go online with ease and confidence. Not me. I have had a couple of nice dates but I am just not willing or able to put myself out there. Too weird.
Is it so bad to enjoy one's own company? I guess maybe that's my problem. Too often I am just as content staying home alone than I am trying to find someone to do something with. Or maybe I am afraid to really try and have a social life that requires me to go it alone without my wing man.
How are you doing with your social life?