Every generation has its own language. Expressions that everyone says. "Far out" worked so well in the 60's. "Narly and rad" belonged to my teens in the '80's. And "awesome" is my grandsons way of saying the same thing -- cool.
Widowhood is subjected to a language of its own as well.
"She lost her husband." A common description of a widow. Well, he's not a missing sock that will eventually show up. He isn't lost. He's dead.
"At least he didn't suffer." While I am happy Lane wasn't sick or in pain before he died, when people say this to me I get really ticked off. It sounds like an excuse for dying before your time. At least if he were sick and in pain his death might have made some cosmic sense to me.
"Life is for the living" although truthful not always doable. Because your life changes so radically when your husband dies it is extremely difficult to commit to living a fulfilling life again. Most of us want to. We just don't know how.
"Til death do us part." I never really thought about this phrase until Lane died. Parting is not as easy as these words imply. Even though our husbands are physically gone the emotional connection doesn't "part" that simply.
OMG. From your widow's point of view, any words or phrases you find annoying? LOL.