Not that anyone ever asks me but it is an interesting question. I guess most people assume that a widow is lonely by definition. I don't think it's that cut and dry.
The dictionary defines lonely as "being without company, cut off from others or not frequented by human beings." If I use that definition I'm not lonely. So maybe I am just alone. Alone is defined as "unaccompanied, by yourself or on your own." I feel more alone than lonely if that makes any sense.
Lonely sounds sad even pitiful. Not that alone is a great place to be either. It is hard to be unaccompanied to a family gathering or heaven forbid a wedding. Being by yourself so much makes you feel a little crazy sometimes. Making every decision on your own without benefit of his counsel can be overwhelming.
I guess it is all semantics anyway. In the end we just miss our husbands and our old lives. It is a simple definition of how we feel everyday.
How do you respond to the question "Are you lonely?"