When you were dating you looked for men that had certain qualities you wanted in a husband. Is he honest? Does he have a sense of humor? Is he affectionate?
On job interviews you are always asked to describe your skill set. What are your strengths? How do you deal with stressful situations? Are you a team player?
So what does it take to be successful at being a widow? Well according to my family I have good coping skills that have helped me accept and live with my loss.
I guess it looks like I am coping. I get out of bed every morning. I take care of my basic health needs. I don't complain. I always say I am doing well.
I go through the motions. I do what needs to be done. But I keep my fears and frustrations to myself. I rarely share my inner thoughts.
So do I have good coping skills? Or am I just a pretty good actor playing the part of a widow who has accepted her new life?