Most of the comments on this blog are from recently widowed women who are in a great deal of pain. They always want an answer to the "does it get better" question.
The short answer is yes it gets better. For me personally, it took a long time. But eventually I stopped crying every day. It became easier to go to social events alone or with a friend. And I learned to enjoy my own company so being by myself became acceptable. The veil of despair does lift in time. It is a slow unveiling but it will happen.
I wish I could provide a timetable or tell you what you can do to make yourself feel better. But I can't. And I refuse to pass on the cliches and generalities that we often hear. One thing I know for sure is that there is no magic cure to widowhood. It is a terminal condition that we all have to find a way to cope with.
Some women find a new direction in life, a new man or surround themselves with family. Others continue to try and feel better on a daily basis.
I'm an other. Just trying to feel a little better each day. What are you?