I think widows put on a happy face for a number of reasons. We don't want to upset anyone or be a burden. We don't want people to feel sorry for us. We don't want to give in to those feelings of depression, anxiety or fear. We want to be happy so maybe if we pretend to be happy we will be? Unfortunately that's not how it works.
Personally, for the last couple of weeks I have been down in the dumps. For a number of reasons I have been feeling especially alone. I have thrown some self pity into the mix as well. But don't worry, for others I put on that happy face and no one knows how I am really feeling.
So the question is, is it a good idea to pretend we are happy and doing fine or should we be honest and tell someone when we are struggling?
If Lane were here that would be a no-brainer. He was my best friend. I could talk to him about anything. He was great if I just wanted to vent. He would give advice if appropriate or dish out the sympathy when necessary.
It's different now. For me, most of the time it is easier to put on that happy face then find someone to be honest with. Maybe I am wrong, but who really wants to deal with a depressed widow?
How often do you put on a happy face?