Sunday, February 7, 2016

Can we fix it?

Just starting month 2 of my 2 month warm weather getaway.  So far, so good.  I've enjoyed the sunshine and visits from family.  Is it what Lane and I had planned for our retirement? No, of course not.  But I am glad I decided to spend my first days of retirement away from home.

My daughter and grandson came for a long weekend visit.  He and I spent a lot of time playing games and watching cartoons.  One of his favs is Bob the Builder.  The essence of the show is Bob and his crew work together to solve construction problems that seem insurmountable. They do it using teamwork and a positive attitude.  

On this lazy Sunday afternoon I began thinking that widows are always having to solve problems and get things done.  Wouldn't it be great to have Bob and his crew around to help us and provide the positive attitude?

Everyday widows have to deal with many challenges.  Some are complicated, like dealing with financial problems, health issues or family matters.  Some are strictly personal, coping with guilt, anger or loneliness. Not to mention that we are now responsible for our "husband's chores," such as car problems, lawn maintenance or fixing anything that breaks.   

We are Bob.  In charge of fixing things.  We may not have the crew he has or the positive attitude but we get things done.  We make decisions.  We execute changes.  We fix stuff large or small.  Maybe we screw up sometimes but we get up and keep trying. I think most of us agree that our husbands would be proud of the job we are doing.

Ever so often, give yourself a pat on the back and when the next problem comes up remember the immortal words of Bob the Builder:   "Can we do it?  Yes we can!"

What kind of problems have you solved that you are proud of?